When You Attract Negative People, Be Thankful
Laws of Attraction are clearly defined. What comes back is a reflection of the energy you are radiating. If negative people are being attracted to you, then be self-assured that you are sending out energy that appeared on their radar screen.
Instead of focusing on not trying to attract them. Be thankful you are.
Okay, you say, that might be pushing it a little. Not really. You see, whatever you are attracting is giving you a clear projection of the energy that you are giving off. Or it could be something that you need to heal first in order to clear your energy. Most times, we could not see how we are radiating without this attraction.
The answer is awareness. The key is seeing it quickly so that their negative energy doesn’t change or shift your energy and pull you down along with it. However, it’s best not to leave until you have a sense of what is showing up. Yet, sometimes, that isn’t possible until hindsight mode.
An excellent example of this occurred to me just this week. A quick background in case you don’t know me — I’m very careful of my energy and have practiced the laws. I am also a master practitioner and move with the laws 24/7 which took years to master. Something I’m very proud of and very aware of.
Well, anyway, moving forward to the illustration.
Eating dinner at my favorite restaurant, sitting there writing after a good meal, just finished a marketing story for one of my syndicated columns. Before leaving I thought I would duck into the ladies room. I was sitting on the john — oops, maybe too much information (TMI) — when I heard this lady talking to me from the other stall. Actually feeling awkward and caught unaware, it took a few minutes before I could really make out what she was saying. By then, I was walking towards the sink to wash my hands. It wasn’t until then did I get the gist of her story, language and negativity. It was a victim story about how the world is out to get her. Let me spare you the details. I know you’ve heard this before and can easily relate to the energy heaviness created in the room.
I smiled and commented about I enjoy coming to the restaurant. She was too much into her story to hear anything but herself. Yet, she wasn’t even hearing herself, I believe. She followed me back to my table and stood over me as I sat down. A few more minutes of this and trying to ignore her and because I was ready to leave anyway, I got up to leave. She walked back to her table and sat. This time I walked to her table and towered over her.
I continued to listen, not getting a word in edge wise for another five minutes or so. I smiled and nodded sideways repeatedly in disagreement. She never paid attention. Finally, I held up my hand in a stop-sign format. This caused a pause. With a deep sigh of thank goodness, I remarked, “I’ve listened to your story and would like to share with you — you are attracting exactly what you don’t want because that is exactly what you want. Everything that has occurred has been what you have asked for. If you want to change what you are attracting, start by seeing and making new choices. This and only this will change what occurs in your life.”
As you suspect, and probably have already experienced yourself, she didn’t even hear the message. She continued right back into her story. My immediate and last comment was, “I hope you have a wonderful life and sometime soon learn to see that you’re choices are what you are attracting.” Not waiting for a response, I quickly turned and left the restaurant.
As I sat in the car, I asked myself, how in the heck did I attract this energy? And in the ladies room of all places? I wasn’t radiating anything negative, was I? The answer from the universe arrived immediately. It directed me towards my story that I wrote. When rereading, my attention was drawn to the number of “don’ts” in the article. They were every other sentence it seemed. Then I turned to other articles I had written at earlier in my notebook. The “don’ts” were many. Embarrassingly many.
Tracing my thoughts to when my energy had changed, I realized that it shifted when I started reading other people’s ezines that I brought along. I saw it as clearly as the sun rising on this morning’s horizon. All the don’ts that people were writing in order to try to sell their products or services. My energy level began to shift with the reading. It continued to spiral into my writing. Their attraction to the negative words moved into my use of negative words. How this and that was hard…finding the target market was hard…and the list went on.
This in turn created me to write in that same tone. My lesson — be fully aware of what I was reading and its influence on my energy and my writing.
As I look back, I see patterns of where this occurred more than once. And as I continue to trace further, I also remember what I was reading.
If it wasn’t for this experience, this negative encounter, I may not have seen this at all. I like to think I would have seen it anyway but in reality, probably not.
Yes, yes, yes. I do wish I had caught it earlier. But let’s not go there, huh. That will zap the energy of this story for sure.
The point is, be glad negative people are being attracted to you. Be aware of their appearance. Ask what is radiating from you that attracted them. Be the fly zapper at a picnic and ask why your light was on that attracted the fly. See any patterns and quickly make any adjustments.
Rest assuredly, that when you are no longer radiating negative energy, you will not attract those negative experiences or people. I promise this to you based on experience.
I also always recommend that you share your experience, through writing, speaking engagements, or just with friends and family. There are three people waiting to listen and learn from the valuable lesson.
Catherine Franz is a Marketing & Writing Coach, niches, product development, Internet marketing, nonfiction writing and training. Additional Articles: http://www.abundancecenter.com blog: http://abundance.blogs.com