Self-esteem ceases to be so when it becomes dependent on the compliments and praises of others to keep it afloat. How can you tell if this is so? Do you puff up with pride when you receive a compliment or puff up with anger when you receive a criticism? If yes to both, then you lack a TRUE healthy self-esteem. You have allowed your ego to rule you and your reactions. You have allowed your estimation of yourself to be determined by opinions, particularly the opinions of others. Others must agree with your self-perception and if they don’t, then begins inner and outer conflicts.
Immerse yourself in your true Self or continue to be tossed to and fro by the waves of others approval/disapproval. Accept who you are as you are. It is in acceptance of the true Self that we find real peace. Not that we should not strive to do better, but that we accept where we are right now and understand that if things could be any different right now then they would be. Accept your good, your bad, and your ugly as they stand right now. Now this doesn’t mean seeing your bad behavior as being acceptable, because again, we should always strive to do better. But don’t beat yourself up. Accept yourself. Forgive yourself. And try again. You are where you are for a reason. Continue to pray for the help of your true Self within to work through and develop true self-esteem and humility.
“Our dependency makes slaves out of us, especially if this dependency is a dependency of our self-esteem. If you need encouragement, praise, pats on the back from everybody, then you make everybody your judge.” – Fritz Perls
“The keys to patience are acceptance and faith. Accept things as they are, and look realistically at the world around you. Have faith in yourself and in the direction you have chosen.” – Ralph Marston
“Happiness can exist only in acceptance.” – George Orwell
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