As a kid during my pre-teen years, I would often run the gamut of emotions depending on the situation. If things were going my way, I was happy, smiling, and laughing it up. If things weren’t going my way or I was in trouble, I was pouting or mumbling evil things about my mama under my breath after being punished such as ‘I hope you get hit by a truck.’
It’s many years later and not much has changed. I still experience the same changes in emotion as everyone else depending on the situation. The only difference is that now I’ve come to understand a little bit more about emotions and that’s what I’d like to share with you.
One Dictionary.com definition of emotions says this:
1. A mental state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and is often accompanied by physiological changes; a feeling: the emotions of joy, sorrow, reverence, hate, and love.
The mind is a very complex and powerful phenomenon. From it originates thoughts which produce results which shape every circumstance and experience in our lives. Now when we speak of the mind, we are not referring to the brain. The brain is merely a physical representation of the mind. In fact, the brain is merely a center from which electrical impulses are sent and received throughout the body as commands to regulate and control chemicals and functions. It is the mind, that invisible force of reason and thinking, that actually controls the brain amongst various other things. It is the force behind the brain. So, it is this force which ultimately controls every aspect of human expression.
Let’s review the definition again. “A mental state that arises spontaneously rather than through conscious effort and is often accompanied by physiological changes.” This definition tells us that emotions are spontaneous, which means that they can happen at any moment without conscious effort or thinking about it. It also tells us that it causes physiological or physical changes.
Think of a time you felt angry. Someone may have said or did something you didn’t appreciate. Your boss gave you an unfair review and no raise. Your boyfriend/girlfriend was three hours late picking you up from work. Your child stuffed a piece of wheat bread in your brand new DVD player. Any one of those is enough to make anyone mad. Now, think of how you felt during those moments. Did your heart beat faster and harder? Did your face frown up? Did your muscles tense and tighten? If so (and it’s more than likely so), then our definition is correct. You felt the physical changes caused by a spontaneous or unexpected change in your mental state. When you felt the emotion of anger, your brain released certain chemicals into your body which in turn caused a physical change.
It’s interesting to note that animals experience emotions similar to our own. Meddle with an uncaged lion and he will feel a physical change caused by a change in it’s mental state. Then again, you will feel a physical change too….because he will rearrange your organs with his teeth and paws. But wait a minute? Isn’t man supposed to be the more intelligent being? And by intelligent we mean possessing the ability to reason, plan, and solve problems or express a higher level of consciousness or thinking. If that’s they case, why is it that we can’t seem to control our emotions? Why do we get angry so easily? Why do we love some but not others or all as we’re taught to?
Can we control our emotions? Of course we can! That’s what makes us human. But how? How do we control something that is supposed to be spontaneous? The only way to control our emotions is through conscious-directed thought. Thoughts, like emotions originate from and are controlled by the mind. And notice that I said conscious-directed thought and not just thought – for randomn thought isn’t controlled. Conscious-directed thought is controlled and aware. It is paying attention to and forming each intention and purpose in your thoughts.
So, it is by conscious-directed thought that we control our emotions. Take time to think situations through. Try to understand why things happen and learn to accept each situation as it comes and think your way through it. Understand that know one has everything figured out and that others, just like you are learning and growing in this life just as you are. It is this thought that helps you learn to control your emotions and makes forgiveness and love possible. For it is then that you understand that all originate from and are sustained by the One Source in which we all live, move, and have our being.
Another note: Not all emotions are negative. You have positive emotions and you have negative emotions. All emotions are energy. And just like energy they can be transformed to something different. Just as water can be transformed to ice or steam so you can change negative emotions to positive ones. It’s simply a matter of knowing what or how you would like to feel and changing your thoughts to focus on that. If you’re angry or upset and want to feel happy and content, then focus your thoughts on times that you were happy. Focus on those moments. Remember every detail…what you wore, what you smelled at the moment, what you heard, etc. Continue to focus on this and you will soon notice your emotions transform along with your physiological state. Try it now. It does work. If it doesn’t, then let me know and I can come tickle you. Maybe that’ll help. Lol. Peace.