Love From My Perspective
Everyone wants it. We look for it in the clubs, on the dating web sites, myspace, the grocery store….wherever. We reserve it for our family and close friends. Sometimes we even do stupid sh** because of it. What is it? Love….
I read a lot of profiles and even some of the blogs that other people write. And one common topic is relationships and love. Many of the men and women here (single and married) are all looking for someone to love them and care for them. But do we really know what that means? Do you really know what you’re looking for? Do you know what love is?
Well, here is what I THINK….
The Bible tells us that God is love, right? And God is Everything and Everywhere, right? Well, if this is the case….then how can there be a lack of love? How can so many people feel alone and lonely and long for the love of another? Could it be that these people aren’t actually looking for love? Are they looking for something else?
One thing people make the mistake of believing is that there are different kinds of love. There aren’t. Again…God is Love. There is one God. Therefore, there is only one Love. (Whodini break: one love, one love, you only get to have just one loooove….if you don’t remember that song, then you’re a baby….lol). Again, there is only one love. It’s the expressions of love that are different. Just as God is One, He is All. One God….different expressions of Him.
The love a mother has for her child is no better than the love a husband has for his wife. It’s only the expressions that are different. You wouldn’t express your love for your husband in entirely the same way you would your child. But, the underlying intention is the same. You give and receive all to and from them. And you give for givings sake without attachment to the results of your giving or without expecting to receive something in return. This is love….giving and sharing of yourself….for free. You don’t worry about what you will receive in return. Why should you? It is a universal law that what you give, you will receive. So, why even worry about what you’re going to get back?
My own personal definition of love is accepting and appreciating one another as we are, while supporting each other in our individual and combined growth.
When we say the words, ‘I love you’, what do we mean? Do you say it because that’s what you think you’re supposed to say to your mate or family members? Do you say it in response to when someone else says it because it’s the appropriate thing to do (kinda like saying hello after someone answers the phone and says hello)? Do you really think about what you’re saying? For many people, it’s just a word they throw around. But words are merely symbols of expression. Of themselves they are nothing. It is the intent or meaning behind the words that make them what they are. Anyone can say ‘I love you’. Hell, even a parrot can be taught to say it. But, its effectiveness is in its intent.
Many people are alone and lonely right now because they are looking for love but in a certain form or packaging. Think about it. Everyone wants to be appreciated and accepted as they are. Everyone wants to receive affection and encouragement. Everyone wants to share their dreams and aspirations with someone who will understand them. Everyone wants to be understood. These are a given. So, if that’s the case, then why are people alone and lonely? There are plenty of people that will give them the love they are seeking. But, what happens is we reject that love because it doesn’t come in the form we would like it to. It’s too fat, too skinny, too tall, too short (I’ve heard this one…lol), too bald, too shy, too loud, too…whatever. Open yourself to love in all its forms. No form is better than the other. And whatever your reasons are for rejecting any form of love, it’s still superficial….and I mean superficial in the form of shallow. Allow yourself to see beyond the surface. The depths of a river can only be experienced beneath the surface. The sweetness of a banana can only be appreciated behind the peel. Look beyond the layers.
Love is all around you. Love is within you. Love is you. And you are Love. You are one. Open your eyes and realize that all are deserving of love….including you. Once you begin to give love, you will receive it. Stop waiting for love to find you. Stop looking for love where it cannot be found. Love is within you. Therefore, there is no need to go looking for it. It’s within you. Recognize it. Accept it for yourself first. Then share it with others. For you cannot share what you don’t have. Get to know you. Accept you. Love you. Accept yourself as you are while working to improve upon that same self. Love who you are aside from the job, the looks, the accomplishments….for those are nothing and can be taken away in an instant. But love is always. Love is All. Love is you. Love is me. Love is God. And we are all one.