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Getting Past Your Past

June 30th, 2009 by Will Nesbitt Leave a comment Go to comments

Right now, I’m reading a book called Friendship with God by Neale Donald Walsch best-selling author of Conversations with God (GREAT BOOK by the way….I highly recommend it.)

Anyway, here is an excerpt from the book. It struck a chord with me and I wanted to share it. Enjoy. Peace. (Please forgive any typos. I was just typin’ away and didn’t proofread.)

You are not – first and foremost I want to tell you that you are not – your past. You are not your yesterdays.

You are not what you did yesterday, what you said yesterday, what you thought yesterday.

A lot of people are going to want you to think that you are your yesterdays. In fact, some others are going to insist that you be. They will do this because they have a big investment in your continuing to show up that way. For one thing, they can then be ‘right’ about you. For another, they can then ‘depend’ on you.

When other people see you as ‘bad’, they don’t want you to change, because they want to continue being ‘right’ about you. This allows them to justify how they are treating you.

When other people see you as ‘good’, they don’t want you to change, because they want to continue being able to ‘depend’ on you. This allows them to justify how they expect you to treat them.

What you are invited to do is live in the moment. Create your Self anew in the present moment. This allows you to seperate your Self from your former ideas about you – a remarkable percentage of which are foundationed in other people’s ideas about you.

How can I forget my past? Other people’s ideas about me are based, in part at least, on their experience of me – on my behaviors – in the past. What do I do, just forget that I did those things? Pretend they don’t matter.

Neither. Do not seek to forget your past, seek to change your future.

The worst thing you could do is forget your past. Forget your past and you forget all that it has to show you, all that it gave you as a gift.

Neither pretend that it doesn’t matter. Rather, acknowledge that it does matter – and that, precisely because it does, you have decided not to repeat certain behaviors again.

Yet, once you have made that decision, let go of your past. Letting go of it does not mean forgetting it. It means stopping the holding on, ending the clinging to your past as if you are going to drown without it. You are drowning because of it.

Stop using your past to keep you afloat in your ideas of Who You Are. Let go of these old logs and swim to a new shore.

Even people with a wonderful past are not served by holding onto it as if that is Who They Are. This is called ‘resting on your laurels’, and nothing stops growth faster.

Neither rest on your laurels nor dwell on your failures. Rather, start over; begin anew in each golden moment of Now.

  1. PrettyBrown0831
    July 12th, 2009 at 19:15 | #1

    Will, I am really glad that you posted this…it is right on time with somethings that I am dealing with at the moment. Thanks

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