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Bombs And Flowers

September 23rd, 2009 by Will Nesbitt Leave a comment Go to comments

When it comes to dealing with men and relationships, women are either bombs or flowers.

A lot of women are like bombs. Hell, many believe that they are THE bomb. And they’re right. Many of them are. Especially the ones who constantly complain about men…bashing them every chance they get yet whining how they can’t find ‘good’ ones. These particular women are more like land mines. Allow me to explain.

A land mine is a target (person or vehicle) triggered explosive weapon. It’s usually hidden underground and explodes when stepped on or driven over. So, it just lies there full of explosives just waiting to be stepped on. Now, the unsuspecting fool steps on the land mine and is blown to pieces. Destroyed. But the wise man sees the land mine, recognizes it’s a land mine, and walks around or away from it in order to avoid the danger.

The anger and resentment you choose to continuing carrying around unforgiven is destructive. Your negative attitude towards the things you actually really want only destroys it when and/or if you get it. You just lie there waiting for your target to walk all over you. In fact, you laying there doing nothing to diffuse your explosive attitudes only continues to draw the same types of targets. The process only repeats itself. And the disastrous effects aren’t simply confined to the bomb and the target. It also affects anything closest to it. Your family, your friends, and your children all feel the effects of these destructive attitudes and behaviors. And it shows. How else do you think the wise man is able to recognize and avoid you? The wise men are the “good ones” you long for and say you can’t find. Well, these men see your destructive behaviors and choose to not deal with them. These men follow the wisdom which says “It is better to dwell in the corner of the housetop, than with a brawling woman and in a wide house.” (Proverbs 25:24) I mean, c’mon. Unless you’re suicidal, who goes out looking for land mines? Who says “Hey, that’s a good looking land mine…I think I’ll take it home with me.”?

Diffuse the bomb. Let the past go. Learn to deal with and release your anger. Not saying to excuse disrespectful behavior from anyone, but learn how to deal with it constructively and in a way that doesn’t keep you attracting negative karma. Prayer and receptiveness to receiving help from the Divine is one sure way to help with this. The same Divinity that created you surely can help heal you…right?

You are an attractive being. I’m not speaking of attractive in the sense of being beautiful but attractive in the sense that you have the power to draw things and/or people to you or push them away from you. This is an unfailing law of the life. You either attract what you want while repelling what you don’t want OR you attract what you don’t want while repelling what you do want.

Once you’ve dealt with your anger and resentment, then you can begin to grow…like a flower. People are drawn (attracted) to flowers because of their obvious beauty. They are soft, gentle, and delicate. Plus, flowers give off oxygen, which is essential to life on this planet. Beautiful, gentle, giving…these qualities usually attract good things…and good people. The more beauty and love you give, the more is returned to you. “As you give, so shall you receive.” This is law.

So, what’s the lesson here? Flowers are constructive while bombs are destructive. Your attitudes have the same constructive and destructive effects. Bad-mouthing men (or anyone for that matter) only serves to attract more of the same because that is what you choose to focus on. And what you focus on is what you will continue to see. What you believe is what you see is what you get.

So, which do you prefer to be? A flower or a bomb? Remember, flowers get picked. Bombs? Not so much.


  1. November 24th, 2009 at 16:48 | #1

    I’ve got a slight spin on this.

    Make no mistake. When you are a strong flower, you may also repel some men who are not meant for you–not able to handle you. A real man can handle assertiveness, and what I call “appropriate independence”, but not someone who is trying to be controlling, overbearing or trying to take over the man’s role. I know this from experience.

    My advice for the ladies is, do not yield to the wrong type of man, but do not be afraid to be a strong flower with the right one, either. We are in relationships to make EACH OTHER better, not to run each other over.

  2. Tamara
    June 6th, 2010 at 22:19 | #2

    I liked both post here i wrote poem called flowers in the garden. I agree but what about that woman that does not know how to really let that go? and mybe she has had so much hurt in her life that maybe no man has ever taken the time to help heal her. sometimes that bomb r land mine need someone to defuse it!! some land mines have been sitting for long periods of time and after while the army goes and disarm it. Sometimes it takes a strong army of a man to disconnect the red and blue wires and u wil be amazed at what u might get!

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