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The Company You Keep

June 30th, 2009 by Will Nesbitt Leave a comment Go to comments

Be careful who you call friend and who you associate with. Everyone has their own energy field….positive or negative. The longer you hang around someone, the more susceptible you are to their energy. Think about it: If a person can’t commit to being good to themselves, why would you possibly expect them to do it for you? It’s not about people being good or bad, right or wrong. It’s about people who choose to either evolve (grow) or remain complacent….or even worse, go backwards. I choose those who choose to evolve. Which is why after careful evaluation, I have had to strategically remove several people from my life over the past couple of years. It’s sad (not always), but necessary. But hey, on the other side of that, maybe their lives are better for it, too. Who knows.

I received the following in an email some years ago. I enjoyed it and decided to share with you. I don’t know who the author is so I will list it as Unknown until I find out. (Update 6/18/13: The author is actually Colin Powell. Special thanks to Rhonda for the correction.)

Anyway….enjoy. Peace. – Will

The Company You Keep

It Is Better To Be Alone, Than In The Wrong Company.
Tell me who your best friends are, and I will tell you who you are.
If you run with wolves, you will learn how to howl.
But, if you associate with eagles, you will learn how to soar to great heights.
A mirror reflects a mans face, but what he is really like is shown by the kind of friends he chooses. The simple but true fact of life is that you become like those with whom you closely associate for the good and the bad.
The less you associate with some people, the more your life will improve.
Any time you tolerate mediocrity in others, it increases your mediocrity.
An important attribute in successful people is their impatience with negative thinking and negative acting people.
As you grow, your associates will change.
Some of your friends will not want you to go on.
They will want you to stay where they are.
Friends that don’t help you climb will want you to crawl.
Your friends will stretch your vision or choke your dream.
Those that don’t increase you will eventually decrease you.

Consider This:
Never receive counsel from unproductive people.

Never discuss your problems with someone incapable of contributing to the solution, because those who never succeed themselves are always first to tell you how.

Not everyone has a right to speak into your life.

You are certain to get the worst of the bargain when you exchange ideas with the wrong person.

Don’t follow anyone who’s not going anywhere.

With some people you spend an evening: with others you invest it.

Be careful where you stop to inquire for directions along the road of life.

Wise is the person who fortifies his life with the right friendships.

– Colin Powell

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  1. Kara
    July 13th, 2009 at 06:40 | #1

    AWESOME advice. This is why I choose friends wisely and often have to let go of people without explaining to them why, which is difficult sometimes but HAS to be done. Thanks for this!

  2. Shante
    March 19th, 2011 at 07:11 | #2

    sooooo true

  3. jennifer
    September 6th, 2012 at 21:25 | #3

    I love you thoughts!!

  4. Smita
    October 4th, 2012 at 13:28 | #4

    love this and totally beleive in it!

  5. kim
    November 29th, 2012 at 07:47 | #5

    this is a great lesson for life…the sooner one learn it the better!

  6. kim
    November 29th, 2012 at 07:49 | #6

    learns it…i meant!

  7. Rhonda
    June 18th, 2013 at 20:13 | #7
  8. Will
    June 18th, 2013 at 20:41 | #8

    Thank you, Rhonda. I’ve updated the post to show Colin Powell as the author. Nice save!

  9. ms.love
    August 26th, 2013 at 23:28 | #9

    I love this made me think!

  10. April 22nd, 2014 at 09:50 | #10

    Incredible love.. The insight of this particular blog has helped me very much, thank.

  11. October 21st, 2015 at 11:35 | #11

    while i do agree at some level of degree about the company we keep i also believe that in life like a castle you build you never truly know how strong and safe you are until you have been under siege…i guess what im saying is that variety in life is a necessity without one or the other like light and darkness how do we truly know where we stand…its funny lately i have been hearing myself vindictively telling people that just dont seem to get themselves motivated in the right direction or even hope to truly realize that is within their power to make change that it is their own faults as well as my own that we are who we are and where we find ourselves (STUPID PEOPLE ARE NOT ALLOWED IN HEAVEN…even a fool can be respected specially when he is the KING OF FOOLS cause in the end still a KING…but it can be easily remieded IN THEORY…its choosing to do so thats hard…. but thanks to all the weak people that made me weak i saw how much i hated weakness and to this day i sthrive to help myself and them cause how truly am i strong or smart if i cant make those around me equally as powerful and knowledgeable until they too surpass me…life is about learning not giving up or given in wether negative or positive it is still energy that we must learn to harness…holding on is better than realizing too late that it was your own reflection that your missing now cause you didnt obligate yourself to be responsible enough to recognize YOU…..A MINUTE FROM NOW ALL THIS PROBABLY WONT MATTER TO ME ANYMORE BUT I THANK YOU FOR GIVING ME SOMETHING TO CARE ABOUT FOR THE PAST FEW MINUTES…keep it seksi……

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